Posts on Sovereignty:
6 Words that Change Everything
You get to be 100% yourself, 100% of the time! It's true: this is 10 words (plus the two %-signs). I'm getting to the...
Everything You Need
In the midst of life's ups and down, I am grateful for that which is steady, familiar, and comfortable. I haven't...
It’s a relief to tell the truth.
"It’s a relief to speak the truth. I don’t have to pretend." ~ Karen Maezen Miller My thoughts about truth-telling are...
Is this exactly the life I want?
Is this exactly the life I want? My answer is sometimes a definitive and enthusiastic "yes," and other times, just as...
About Being Ordinary
The desire, temptation, and lure to live an extraordinary life is strong; to figure out our “one thing;” to do,...
Letting go of what no longer serves
A few weeks back I posted a quote from Adam Grant’s book, Think Again on IG and FB: “. . . let go of the knowledge and...
About Being In Control
A few weeks back I was in a place I haven’t been for two-plus years: wearing a lavalier mic, standing in front of a...
The truth is almost always personal
I recently read Handling the Truth: On the Writing of Memoir, by Beth Kephart. On the back cover are these words: It...
Saying “no” (out loud) to shame
I’ve been thinking about shame a lot lately. I know it’s showing up because in the seemingly-endless writing/editing...
If I had a Book Group
I ordered a book a few weeks back, but have basically avoided it since it arrived. Well, until a couple morning’s ago...
For Days of Self-Loathing
I came across a poem a few weeks back by Nikita Gill. The corner of the page was folded down — evidence that I’d read...
About “someday”
You know of Lizzo, yes? Her music, her recent show on Amazon — Watch Out For the Big Grrrls, her incredible voice as a...
About the quiet and silence.
So often, I talk about a woman’s voice and courage and sovereignty. Yours. Mine. Ours. It matters. It is what I’m...
About Time
I’ve been thinking a lot about time lately; struggling with it in some ways. And oddly, it’s not because I don’t have...
1 quote and 3 (tiny) topics
The Quote: Re-vision–the act of looking back, of seeing with fresh eyes, of entering an old text from a new, critical...
Wisdom from Dr. Sharon
I came across a Facebook post by Brene Brown a few weeks back. She was talking about her recent conversation with...
Why I Left My Corporate Job
My thoughts on fear, courage, and being an entrepreneur. In January of 2018 I left my 10-year-old online business for...
3 ways to be fear-defying in writing and life
When I look back over 17 years of blogging, here’s what stands out to me: My voice has fluctuated, depending on the...
How Courage is like Ballroom Dancing
My favorite movie of all time is Strictly Ballroom. It’s an Australian film from 1992. Quirky. Hilarious. Endearing....
About Courage & American Ninja Warrior
I do not know how to explain why I love American Ninja Warrior. My youngest daughter and I started watching it a few...
Remember Who You Are
I talk about sovereignty all the time. It’s a program I offer. But more than all else, it’s a reality, a truth, that I...
The Voices in Your Head
Maybe it's only me, but no matter how long it's been since some of my less-than-stellar stories took place, I still...
The Power of Childhood Stories
We rarely give a second thought to the stories of our childhood. Fairytales, religious myths, favorite books, legend,...
No imagination required…
There’s a story I love to tell of a mostly unknown woman named Jael. She singlehandedly won a huge battle for a whole...
6 Ways to Access Your Inner Wisdom
It’s taken me a lifetime to learn that I can trust myself and my own knowing instead of needing to rely on external...
Choosing others’ comfort OR choosing self
I have a library of personal stories in which I let others' needs demands overrule my own. I'm not proud of them,...
Steps that count vs. counting steps
I have an Apple Watch that I rarely wear. It enables me to count my steps which, on good days, encourages me, but on...
Amelia Earhart. Agency. Taking action.
Amelia Mary Earhart was born July 24, 1897. In her short life, she was the first female aviator to fly solo across the...
Wisdom does as Wisdom says
Women hold all the wisdom they could ever need, that the planet could ever need, that the world so desperately needs....
Refrigerator-Magnet Wisdom
Last month I was in a bookstore in Lexington, KY with both of my daughters. We wandered in three different directions,...
What’s left on the cutting room floor?
Each morning, lately, I have been reading from a book with 365 reflections. Some I resonate with; others, not so much....
The how-to’s of being “big”
In my last post I named the ways in which we have transmuted being small into our very DNA. This is not the kind of...
Unraveling “small” on behalf of “big”
We must learn to be big in a way we’ve never been big - we must claim our right to take up space, to say our words, to...
Go Deeper Still, Still…
(I first published this post on 12/31/14. It seems to me to be as relevant as ever.) Go deeper still... You already...
The stories we tell ourselves
I've been thinking about the stories I tell - those of ancient, sacred women who have been absented from our...
Remember who you are
I was in a queer mood, thinking myself very old; but now I am a woman again – as I always am when I write. I love this...
The power of women’s stories…and yours!
There’s an old, old story told that begins with a narcissistic, paranoid, and power-hungry man (which sounds vaguely...
Take your seat at the head of the table
All of us know times, even seasons, in which we struggle and strain to feel like we’re on solid ground...in our minds,...
Retrieving the Fragments
Although women’s words have been censored or eliminated from much of [our] heritage, in the midst of the pain of...
The you you know best
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back? If all your power, compassion, love, and strength roared into any room, any...
A story about (in)visibility
Women: you are not unseen, unheard, or invisible! Ever! Do you ever feel as though you (and other women) are unseen,...
What I need you to remember:
We are desperate to see ourselves in powerful and empowering ways. It’s no wonder: we have too-often and for too long...
Do the Next Thing
I don’t know about you, but when I read or hear the stories of amazing women (which is ALL the time), I have the...
As 2018 begins…
Rebecca Solnit has written a book called, The Mother of All Questions: Further Reports from the Feminist Revolutions –...
The deep and ever-present wisdom…
HEARING VOICES We all have at least one – often a legion of them. They speak when we least want them to. They show up...
My Inner Critic = The Patriarchy
I was recently organizing files on my computer (something I do when I intend to write, but instead find busy work…)...
God on a Woman’s Terms
For most of us, the word "sacred" conjures some thought of God. Perhaps you associate this with a positive set of...
Somewhere between Kali and Jesus
I am Kali Ma.I stick my tongue out of my once silent lips.These eyes, no longer mild,Are furious daggers of fire.~ a...
Nevertheless, we persist!
On Tuesday, February 7, 2017, Senator Elizabeth Warren began to read a letter Coretta Scott King wrote in 1986 that...
Bloodline
What if you claimed your legacy, your inheritance, your very bloodline? As a daughter of Eve – the best Eve, the...
Handless Maidens and then some…
Two weeks ago I spent 6 days in the coveted presence of Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes. There were probably about 100 of...
What if you didn’t hold back?
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back? If all your power, compassion, love, and strength roared into any room, any...
Remember who you are (x3)
We are desperate to see ourselves in powerful and empowering ways. It’s no wonder: we have too-often and for too long...
Telling Myself (no more) Lies
I have recently uncovered an interesting belief I hold within. It’s not pleasant. And frankly, I’m not all that crazy...
Chances are…
Chances are pretty high that if your desire is strong enough, acute enough, and impossible to dissuade, others will...
A poem. Some story. Lots of truth.
“Please understand me!”she cried.An impossible premisean impossible promiseimpossible, period. She cried“Please...
Maybe it’s (not) only me
Maybe this sounds familiar: You are in conversation with someone. As they are talking you hear another entire...
When Wisdom Eludes
I remember one afternoon, years ago, sitting in my living room with a woman I deeply respected. I talked to her about...
The other woman
Every once in a while, out of the corner of my eye, I glimpse the other woman. She looks so much like me, but wilder...
I Am A Medial Woman
The Medial Woman...is a representation of the strong-sighted and deep-hearted self who lives simultaneously in the...
Go Into the Darkness.
Gazing into the mirror, I saw myself as I was – a black silhouette in the room, a woman whose darkness had completely...
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back?
Who would you be if you didn’t hold back? If all your power, compassion, love, and strength roared into any room, any...
For such a time as this.
Sometimes if not oftentimes, the circumstances in which you find yourself are the last ones you want. You look around...
The 3 Secrets of the Gifted Soul
“Since you were born gifted, you will never lead an ordinary life.” “Eccentricity is the first sign of giftedness. You...
Standing Ground & Donning Crown
Yes, standing your ground and donning your crown. Or...maybe choosing to remove it altogether! Once upon a time – or...
The only piece of wisdom you will ever need
I (re)watched The Matrix a few nights back. I hadn’t seen it for years and it was even better than I remembered....
What I know for sure (about women)
What I know for sure about women; about us: When I read the ancient, sacred stories of women I am ever-finding...
TRUTH is a warrior
I’ve spent the last few days at a beautiful, private, and extremely quiet place. I’ve spent a lot of time looking out...
Eve Screams “No!” (Part 2)
Part One of this post was written a few days ago, prompted by an all-too-familiar place of self-contempt. Through the...
Eve Screams “No!” (Part 1)
The light catches my iPad screen in such a way that my reflection stares back. I look away. I hate what I see....
Our Heritage is Our Power
I had a gorgeous hour on Skype with Amy Palko today. A quick skim of topics included online business, abortion rights,...
Spiritual wisdom from Elizabeth Gilbert
I’m about 2/3 of the way through Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. Not only do her words make me wish I could...
Happy 47th Birthday to Me!
After writing posts for both of my daughters on their birthdays, I thought it only fitting that I do the same for...
“It is finished.” (My divorce is final.)
Great is the art of beginning, but greater is the art of ending. (Lazarus Long) What we call the beginning is often...
Women: Choose the Unfamiliar
I am here again, in a familiar place feeling something I’ve felt before, wondering why it’s still here, why I didn’t...
Will I tell you what I want?
A friend loaned me a book last week that I can’t put down. It’s called Women and Desire: Beyond Wanting to beWanted by...
Piano Recitals
Yesterday my 9-year-old daughter, Emma, gave her first piano recital. She was joined by 5 other young pianists –...