1) A heroine is not a male hero. She is herself, engendered, unique.
So much of our struggle as women has come from our attempts to be female versions of male archetypes, male models, male templates. We have fought for the right to vote – just like men; broken through the glass ceiling in order to hold positions of power and esteem – just like men; fought in combat – just like men; been ordained – just like men. All of these privileges are, of course, rightfully ours, but we have had (and continue) to fight for them by way of comparison to those that men implicitly hold.
We also know that we are not men, that we do not need to fight to be men, that we do not need to (or want to, frankly) fight men. We have our own archetypes, our own models, our own templates. We are women. Different bodies. Different stories. Unique, differentiated, brilliant, and strong. A heroine defined. This is you, is it not?
2) A heroine does not need to be classified as heroic to be so. She is heroic because she lives her life in ordinary ways.
Battling villains single-handedly, wielding a sword, rescuing fair maidens: all gallant efforts and the stuff of legend. The stuff of heroes. But we do not need to be heroes. We are heroines. We live our lives, raise our children, own our own businesses, go to work every day, climb the corporate ladder, weed our garden, paint our nails, cook dinner, drink wine, do dishes, laugh with friends, fold laundry, make love, converse, shed tears, create, share, live. We demonstrate strength, courage, and wisdom in the midst of our every day life. A heroine defined. This is you, is it not?
3) Simple, meaningful conversation is the space in which heroines thrive; the womb from which they are birthed.
The process by which women often come to recognize their own heroin-ness is in conversation, relationship, and shared story with other women. We gather, we reveal, we listen. And more than anything, we realize we are not alone; that the very things we are feeling, questioning, and thinking are known and understood by others. In that safe, fluid, nurturing space, we recognize our own story, our own voice, our own reality and, in turn, see beauty – our own and others’. We grow. We gain strength. We writhe and stretch and kick. We induce labor. And we birth ourselves. A heroine defined. This is you, is it not?
A heroine defined; even more, demonstrated and lived, every day, all the time. This is you, is it not?
May it be so.
Just before I finished this post, I sent off another of my Sacred Readings. It may sound far too self-promoting to say so, but I can’t help it: the wisdom, guidance, and brilliance that these ancient women’s stories are speaking into current women’s stories – your stories – is, well, breathtaking. Heroine’s, to be sure. And with every card I pull, with every “question” I respond to, I hear these words in my mind and heart: “More, please!”
I love offering these to you. I want you to have all that waits for you – and it’s a LOT. So much encouragement. So much support. So much advocacy. So much strength. So much kindness. All you have to do is ask. I hope you will.
May it be so.
“Ronna, your words have me stopped still, pondering, realizing nothing could be more true right now. This wisdom and guidance was handcrafted just for me. These words have reached into my very soul and touched a place that has been in slumber…Your words have brought healing in a time of immense confusion and pain.”
“Have I mentioned how much your reading means to me?? I can’t stop reading it. It’s so beautiful and just exactly what I needed to hear right now.”
“How can I describe this beautiful experience? My Sacred Reading arrived and it was complex, complete, concise, evocative. Shimmering with meaning and metaphor. And then, I read it through again. It began to expand – and open, like a nested doll. You see, this work is archetypal – meaning that it’s layered, and each layer has a deeper meaning than the last. Ronna’s wisdom led me into my soul story through a new doorway where I was able to work with ancient story to make new, modern connections to my own life experience. Brilliant work.”